To the New Gluten-Free Journeyer at Christmastime

Let’s be honest: any holiday, birthday, or celebration can feel like a gluten-free nightmare, but Christmas? It’s on a whole other level—especially in the early stages of your journey. Everyone wants to feel the holiday cheer, but being gluten-free can sometimes put a damper on the excitement.

Here’s a typical mental spiral when it comes to pondering all the pre-gathering questions:

• Should you skip the gathering entirely?

• Do you risk it and potentially end up sick before dessert?

• How do you explain this to people who only see you once a year and think “gluten-free” is just a fad?

• And oh, the dreaded fear of hurting someone’s feelings by asking too many questions OR declining their food.

Let me pause here and tell you something important: all these thoughts and feelings are valid.

But here’s the good news: it does get better. You’ll learn, grow, and build the tools you need for a well-rounded (and delicious) gluten-free life. Take a breath and pace yourself. Some of the stress comes from our own expectations and not wanting to inconvenience others. Some of it comes from genuinely awkward and/or challenging situations. Either way, it’s okay to feel this way. The first Christmas is always the hardest—but it won’t always be like this.

Now, let’s explore a few strategies that will help you navigate this holiday season with more ease and confidence.

Tip 1: Bring a Wingman

First, find your person. A gluten-free wingman is your secret weapon—a partner, sibling, or friend who knows the deal and has your back.

If they’re attending the gathering, GREAT! They can help you handle questions, steer conversations, or even share aknowing glance when someone asks, “So, what exactly is gluten, anyway? Why aren’t you eating the casserole I made? And do you really have to be so strict?” Having someone there who gets it can make all the difference in feeling supported and understood.

Even if they can’t be there, a quick text exchange or funny meme can ground you and remind you that you’re not alone. Stay connected to your support. My family has been my anchor, sending jokes and encouragement, and many times stepping in to explain things when I’ve needed backup. Think about who your person is—they’re a game-changer. Take this time to discuss with them any upcoming gatherings and anticipated support.

Tip 2: Plan Your Exit Strategy

Instead of agonizing over whether to attend, shift your focus to how long you’ll stay. Eat beforehand and bring snacks to keep yourself fueled. Most people are too busy mingling to notice whether or not you’re eating.

And here’s the golden rule: don’t show up hungry. I operate on a quarter- to half-tank full at all times (same as your dad does with his gas gauge!) Pre-game with a safe snack and keep some gum or nuts in your bag for emergencies.

If things get weird (hello, mystery casserole), trust your instincts. It’s better to pass than to spend Christmas Eve hugging the toilet.

Tip 3: Communicate with the Host

If you know the host well enough, send a friendly message before the event. Most people want their guests to enjoy themselves and may make minor adjustments if you ask.

Keep it simple: “Hey, I just wanted to let you know I’ve been gluten-free for a few months and need to be cautious about cross-contamination. I’m happy to bring a dish to share!”

If the host seems unsure or the vibe feels off, trust your gut (literally and figuratively). You’re the one who will deal with the consequences if something goes wrong.

Tip 4: Keep Encouragement Handy

Save a motivational wallpaper on your phone—something that reminds you why you’re doing this. This journey isn’t just about avoiding gluten; it’s about caring for yourself and restoring your health.

Not everyone will understand, and that’s okay. The right people will either learn to support you or fade out of your life.

Either way, you’re making a choice that’s worth it.

Tip 5: Reflect and Grow

After the gathering, take five minutes to reflect. What went well? What didn’t? Keep a note on your phone where you jot down thoughts, lessons, and ideas for next year.

The good news? It gets easier—not because the challenges disappear, but because you get better at handling them. Your confidence grows, your tools sharpen, and even those tricky conversations with your family flow more naturally.

Final Thoughts

To anyone navigating their first gluten-free Christmas, hear this: you will get through this! You’re learning, adapting, and figuring out what works for you. And hey, I’m rooting for you. You’ve got this.

Until next time,

Merry Christmas!

(Also, keep those good vibes and great snacks handy)